Rituals · Self-Care

The first and last thing: Why rituals are so meaningful

What are the first thoughts you have in the morning and the last thoughts you have before falling asleep?

An excerpt from Dr. Wayne Dyer’s blog:

“Metaphysical teacher Neville Goddard offers us this description of what takes place while we sleep: Sleep is the door through which the conscious, waking mind passes to be creatively joined to the subconscious. Sleep conceals the creative act while the objective world reveals it. In sleep man impresses the subconscious with his conception of himself.”

As awareness of our thoughts grow, gratitude and love are naturally present fully at bedtime.

It may such an easy idea that we simply forget how simple it is.

Thoughts before bedtime ritual

My husband and I were having a sacred moment together. No, we weren’t making love…lol…as much as that’s what it sounds like…and as appropriate as that would have been….

We begin by sitting together in meditation and say a prayer. We hold space for whatever comes up and it’s our intention to cultivate this space, awareness, and presence within ourselves so we can tap into it when we aren’t sitting together.

We touched on the topic of inspiration. He shared with me that he is inspired by love, health and happiness. I wondered what he thought about before he went to bed and so I asked…. it was then I realized he didn’t have a ritual for his mind when drifting off to sleep.

He shared with me that he will have thoughts about what happened during the day or things he needed to do. There was sometimes anxiety about things he hadn’t done.

Here’s what I invite you to do:

If you have thoughts about your day, feel free to write them down. Get them out of your system. Just like any to-do list, it may not even matter if you get them all done, it’s more important for your body to let them go.

If the thoughts keep coming up, let them pass by. A meditation technique I have heard from different teachers is to think of your thoughts like clouds…and let them pass by. It’s ok to sit with one for a second or two… and then let it go by.

If it’s helpful, write a list of things you are thankful for or make a list of things you accomplished throughout the day. These can even be bigger goals that you have achieved. So often, I know for my husband and I, we forget the big things we have done and the obstacles we have overcome.

As you close your eyes, see if you can feel a sense of peace, relief and relaxation in your body. A benefit of meditation, is being able to create this relaxation at will.

With practice, your thoughts will become in alignment with your true essence, which is one of peace and love.

Thoughts upon waking

As a mom of three kids, the night is a crap shoot for me…. my youngest may wake up in the middle of the night and want to nurse… my oldest may have crept into my bed… and you all know the feeling when someone is looking at your when you are sleeping…

It was a a-ha moment for me when I realized that I needed to create some sort of sanctuary for myself, even before my eyes opened in the morning.

A favorite passage of mine, which I learned from Marianne Williamson and Gabby Bernstein, c/o A Course in Miracles is a prayer to our Creator:

“Where would you have me go? What would you have me do? What would you have me say, and to whom?”

Another prayer I recite from time to time, c/o St. Francis:

“Lord, make me a channel of your peace.”

These prayers are my foundation for the day, and ground me in my purpose that I do not have to go about the day alone…and any ideas I have for how the day should look, are surrendered to a higher power.

Our wants and desires are given to us for a reason and we are to follow them. We are also working with a power far greater than we can imagine…a power that is all things possible.

This relationship allows us the ability to live our potential… create things we never had imagined…and make a difference in a world that needs our love now like never before.

Do you have a ritual for rising and drifting to sleep? Please share with me, I’d love to hear what works for you!

Have a blessed day.





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