How to find your purpose

How do you find your purpose?

The good Lord knows I have been searching for years…

When you’re in school, it feels like getting good grades and having fun with friends…not in that order and for me, there was a whole lot of other stuff thrown in there.. (boys, theatre, a job, boys…)

And then as you get older, it feels like it’s to get a good job…

And then somewhere between the job and maybe getting married and maybe having kids…

Like….. what are we doing?…..

I grew up not really worrying too much about what I was going to do once I had to actually find my purpose…. I always thought I would be an actor…

I really thought I would move out to L.A. or New York, maybe….

And really just act, or have fun…. never really thinking too much about it because I had this conviction that I would be fine….no matter what happened….no matter what I did…. I would be just fine…

So, for awhile there…. as I realized that my path took a very different turn….and I was settling into a new path…one that I subconsciously craved….but wasn’t really sure how to be in….

I yearned for a purpose….

…for conviction….

….for reassurance….

….that I was doing it right…. that I was ok…..

when you’re little, it’s “living up to your potential”…

…and it still feels that way…

…a calling inside you that says: you are where you are supposed to be

Did I find my purpose?

Cut to a year ago…. it finally got through to me….

Conviction is a choice….

You either are…. or you are not….

If you are, then keep heading in that direction, and if you aren’t make a different choice…

All of these crap tools I was learning about sales, trying to be better at my job, trying to do more….

I realized that they totally did not move me forward…. they fed my ego, but they did not move me forward…. I wanted something more…

It got through to me that progress is made from within….not from the outside… at least not at first…

And everything that I was searching for…. would never be found outside myself…

And when you are young and working for other people, probably still pleasing a lot of people like your parents, family, friends, boyfriend, girlfriend, boss, co-worker…

I see the tendancy to look outward…unless someone gives you permission to cultivate your own spirit….. to cultivate your own purpose….

You very well may continue on a path of serving others without listening to your own guide….

I always thought the answer was out there….

…it wasn’t until I started recognizing that my purpose may or may not look like what I think and it can be quite simple…

…that I started to feel good….

…and see differently….

… although my purpose has to do with my husband and kids….

… I realized that my main purpose is to be happy.

What makes me happy will change over time, perhaps from day to day (like for the upcoming weeks my purpose is to deliver a happy and healthy baby!)

…My purpose remains: be in a space of happiness….and I will be able to serve myself greater….and therefore, be able to serve others… starting with my husband and my kids.

Yes, folks… it’s as simple as that….

Loving myself more

I might add that being happy, is interdependent with loving oneself…. the moments that I’m not happy, I am feeling sad, guilty, shameful, angry, fearful….and although others may trigger my negative thoughts, they actually stem from feelings I have for myself … the dark, sad ones…

Let’s put it this way: Happiness is a feeling of lightness…. sadness is a heavy feeling….

When do you want to serve greater and share your gifts with others? Is it when you have a feeling of lightness….or heaviness?

Maybe you think it’s when you have more energy….and lightness certainly gives you greater energy than the heaviness…. it’s all about energy….

So, the more we can love ourselves, the happier we will be, the more we can serve, and therefore we find our true purpose….rather, it finds us….

Because when we are happy and feeling free, we hear better and take greater action…because it just feels good….

More on this in later blogs… gotta love it!

Gabby shares her awareness abour purpose here:

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