Breaking the habit of being yourself · Gabrielle Bernstein · spirituality

Belief in change + Gabby’s 14 ways to make ’14 miraculous

I must admit…

This is the first time I am making resolutions that I firmly believe in and expect to happen!

Reflection is a gift and my moving forward will continue to include releasing my fears and choosing happiness now!

My choices for the new year will be a repetition of the affirmations and mind-sets that have cleaned up my heart and soul over the past year.

“Whatever the mind of man can conceive, and bring itself to believe, it can achieve” ~ Napoleon Hill

I believe in my own abundance…. and I believe in yours…

Gabby gives 14 tips below and her #1 is the one in which I feel is most prominent… without it, we keep ourselves held captive with our own bad behaviors….and un-serving thoughts…

Be willing to change.

Iyanla Vanzant says, “We don’t have to be perfect, only willing…”

A truth I have come to know is that we may think we want all these great things…but deep down inside, these may be things we are actually afraid of…. success…health….love…

We think we want what we want…but when it comes down to it… we actually don’t want it at all…

We think we don’t deserve it, we are afraid of the change that would occur if we actually got what we wanted….

Once you decide on what you want, dig deeper and picture what your life would be like if you actually achieved this…. what would it feel like and what would other people say?

How would your life change if you received your gifts?

If you still want your change to occur, but are having trouble accepting the change, or visualizing the change, or feel negative thoughts about what other people might say…

Recite this affirmation and make it a habit:

I am willing….

You can insert whatever you want after that…

I am willing to accept change
I am willing to see things differently
I am willing to release my limiting beliefs
I am willing to be different

If you commit to your willingness, you’ll notice a shift in your thoughts and in how you feel. For me, when I experience willingness, I receive a lightness in my chest and it feels like a weight is lifted off my shoulders… Willingness feels a lot like surrendering… a lot like a releasing…. you are literally changing the way your brain and your body do business…

You are re-wiring your brain

You will soon believe in your own willingness….you will be available for change to occur…

Then comes the willing to accept your riches part… this is quite interesting because we can be willing to change all we want but it must be paired with a willing to receive….

Again, it goes back to not feeling deserving and/or having no belief in ourselves and what we are capable of…

In 2014, I will not dance around the perimeter of the person I am meant to be, rather jump in…

“Imagination is meant to create your world, not escape it” ~ Wayne Dyer

God bless you and yours this new years and in 2014, may you experience the miracles that are your birthright.

Love to all!

Gabby’s 14 tips

Tip 1. Be willing to change.
Your willingness is crucial in maintaining and sustaining long-lasting change. The key to making resolutions stick is to choose something that you really want to change! Your resolution won’t stick if you don’t REALLY want it. Rate your resolution on a scale of 1 – 10 (10 means you really want it). If you’re under 5 maybe reconsider the resolution for another year.

Tip 2. Find a resolution running buddy.
When you make a commitment to yourself and another person you’re more likely to stick to the plan. Find a friend who wants to be your resolution running buddy. You can support each other on your path. It’s really helpful if you share the same resolution and work together to maintain the positive change.

3. Say nice things to yourself. You’re the only one listening.
Sometimes the biggest bully you know is you. This New Year become aware of the unkind ways you speak to yourself. Tweet: Every thought is an affirmation either lifting you up or knocking you down. Your thoughts speak louder than words and it’s time clean them up and use them wisely. Pay close attention to the negative thoughts you repeat over and over. Then do your best to re-frame those thoughts in an empowering way. For instance, if you’re constantly thinking, “I’ll never reach my desired weight,” then re-frame that thought to, “I am taking powerful steps towards my desired weight.” A simple shift in your thinking can create a miracle.

4. Start your day off right.
Don’t check your email as soon as you wake up. Sit for at least one minute of stillness. Recite a positive affirmation, like, ‘I’m going to respect myself today,’ or use one of my affirmations from the Spirit Junkie Affirmation Alarm Clock. In addition, avoid watching the news for at least an hour. Start your day with positivity and power.

5. Get social with your change.
In 2013 I kicked sugar using social media. I made a commitment to myself and my followers that I was going to quit the sugar once and for all. I posted daily pictures of the healthy food I was eating and cooking and I tracked my day count off of sugar. Reaching out to the community kept me accountable and supported my desired goal. Tweet: If you’re ready for a miraculous shift then get social with your change.

6. Focus on what makes you feel good.
One simple way to energize your life, create more time and be more productive, is to feel inspired. Tweet: When you focus on what is joyful you bring more joy into your life. Take time to engage in your hobbies, read inspiring books or listen to music that you love. You don’t have to wait for inspiration: find it by focusing on what gets your mojo working and you’ll energize every area of your life.

7. Get creative.
This year, tap into your creative side. Creative hobbies will take you out of your daily patterns and ignite your inner spirit. Pledge to engage in a creative project as often as possible. You’ll find that time spent in creativity heightens your happiness and gives you more energy for the other areas of your life. For instance, this month I begin a 6-week ceramics class and I’ve committed to making miracle mugs for all of my friends! (Stay tuned for the instagram pics!)

8. Stop binge watching episodes of Revenge.

Confession: I spent the better half of 2013 watching Revenge and Breaking Bad. I admit that I’m also severely addicted. These days it’s way too easy to get sucked into TV and lose track of time. We can spend hours sucked into Netflix rather than use that time for creative projects. Take a TV break and replace it with something more inspiring. Take walks around your neighborhood, write in your journal, read a new book, try a fun new fitness routine or meditate with me. Get back all the hours you wasted binging on Netflix and reignite your life with new activities. Next time you’re about to press play on the next episode of Revenge press play on this video instead.

9. Fall in love with your exercise method.
I believe that the best way to stay committed to exercise is to fall in love with your exercise routine. When you find joy in exercise then you begin to long for it. For instance, I choose exercises that make me feel childlike, such as, jumping on the mini trampoline or rollerblading. When I ignite my inner child I have more fun and I fall in love with the experience. Being in love with my exercise routine makes me wake up each morning psyched to get back on the trampoline or strap on the rollerblades.
Find an exercise routine that ignites your inner spirit and fall in love with it! Falling in love with your exercise will make it an exciting part of your day rather than a chore.

10. Just show up!
The Kundalini yoga masters taught that 90% of the practice was just showing up to class or sitting down to practice yoga. If 90% of creating a new habit is just showing up, then we can take the pressure off. If your goal is to work out more, remember that 90% of the resolution is to get your butt to the gym! Stop waiting for something major to happen—just show up for change.

11. Keep it simple.
Have you ever desperately wished you could make change happen overnight? If so, you’re not alone: we’ve all been there. But we must surrender to the fact that real change happens by adding up subtle shifts. Tweet: Each subtle shift creates a new experience of positive change. When we add up these moments, we create new behavior. It’s important to keep it simple and stay in the day. Let yourself off the hook! Instead of getting overwhelming by focusing on changing your whole life right now, simply begin paying attention to the moment-to-moment subtle shifts. Trust that the miracle lies within the subtleties. For support on creating these subtle shifts check out the new release of my New York Times bestselling book May Cause Miracles, available in paperback on 1/14/14!

12. Expand your inner awareness.
All of my books and lectures have one common theme: Tweet: When we strengthen our inner awareness our outer experience becomes miraculous. This New Year accept this truth: as you slow down and tune into your own inner guidance system you’ll receive all the power and resources you need to flourish. Stop looking outside yourself for answers. Begin a meditation practice and expand your inner awareness with my free guided meditations.

13. Repetition creates permanent change.
Resolutions aren’t for dabblers. It’s important to repeat your new behavior. Make a commitment to stick to your resolution for 40-days straight. That daily repetition will change the neural pathways in your brain and help you create long-lasting change.

14. Have fun!
The best way to stick to your resolutions is to have fun with them. For instance, if you want to get into shape, find really fun and innovative workouts. Or if you want eat more healthfully, fall in love with cooking awesome recipes.

Real, lasting change — the kind that allows you to launch and sustain the life you dream of — requires you to immerse yourself in your desires, let go of negative patterns, and do it all with openness, structure, and support.

Are you ready to launch your life?
This January, join me for Reignite, a brand-new group intensive course. Attend the Reignite intensive course in-person in Manhattan or anywhere online via Livestream video or phone. Plus, you can access the video and audio recordings following each session. The recordings will be yours forever. Check out the details here. Early-bird discount expires 1/2/14.


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