I had to let my own self off the hook and clarify my own non-negotiables…

Parenting and being disciplined

As the caretaker, teacher, helper, disciplinary, all things at all times for young children…. we are triggered very often….

And it leads me to question my state and where I am on my path…

There are times when all things are cool and things seem to be chugging along…

And then I reach a place where I am loosing it…. and the discipline I’ve been able to hold space for….for so long…

Drifts off like the snow dust when only a few inches have hit the ground.

Let yourself off the hook

This is two-fold.

The first is to let yourself off the hook for loosing yourself with young children…. or any responsibilities…

But I’m mainly talking about your young children…

Just forgive yourself…

And let yourself heal…

And trust that you’re doing the best you can…

And if you truly are… you can let yourself off the hook…

And if you’re not doing the best you can…

Let yourself off the hook anyways…

And decide what you’re going to do differently…. and clarify what you are going to be disciplined about.

Maybe you will decide a specific choice you will make when your child is giving you hard time…

Maybe you will put on some music…

Maybe you’ll send yourself to a time-out…put your little one in his/her crib….or put a show on for them while you take a hot bath… or take a breather… or sit on your bed and say a prayer…

Decide what you are going to do that will make you feel better…

Perhaps you decide to do nothing at all…maybe you just breathe more deeply…

The other part is what Gabby is talking about.

She gave up coffee and more recently, sugar…

That’s a non-negotiable for her because she decided what she was going to be disciplined about.

She said, “I do not drink alcohol…I do not drink coffee….I do not eat sugar”

What are your non-negotiables?

For example, I actually have not had pop since Sean and I started our cleanse in January of this year. It has just compelled itself as a non-negotiable for me.

Being pregnant, I am disciplined in drinking as much water I can, taking a multi-vitamin, consciously eating and obviously, no drinking.

I’m also disciplined with affirmations, meditation and breathing exercises. These are things that I’ve turned into habits and I’m disciplined with their execution…

When it comes to eating fruits and vegetables, drinking 8 glasses a day and being patient with my kids… I let myself off the hook…. I leave much flexibility because I’m a work in progress…

We all are…

These things didn’t come to me right away…

They took time to develop…

I think the most important thing, is to clarify what you really want….

…to loose weigh…. feel better…. have a better relationship with yourself or others…

And then decide what the things are that you just will not tolerate…

And what things you are cool with being more flexible with…

And pray about it…. listen….release….allow….be willing to receive guidance…. and change….