What to do when you loose your sh*t

What do you do when you loose your sh*t?

You’re well on your spiritual way…..

Trekking down your spiritual path….

When all of a sudden, you feel like you’ve lost total control and your sense of reality has shot out the door with the old Halloween pumpkins…

Some days, especially with ย my kids, I loose my temper….loose my cool…

I’ve actually gotten used to this experience and this is the anger that I’ve been working through for so long…

I’m not talking about loosing your temper with your kids because they, for the 100th time today, didn’t listen to you and are fighting with each other…

I’m yelling at my kids right now….

I’m talking about loosing your cool with what feels like everyone around you…and yourself…

Loosing your sh*t when you’re pregnant

Ok, so I’m 7 months pregnant…. I have started a new business, I am at home a lot more, my kids are a crazy responsibility, my husband has a few different businesses and projects going on, I have two dogs, it’s the holidays and everyone’s energy is at an all-time high…

things are, at this particular time…chaotic… as they just always have been…I’ve been with child(ren)/married for 6+ years and I would definitely describe my life as chaotic…

And I have never felt more in control of my life than I do now!

And out of control….but I’m ok with the feeling of out of control….it’s a practice of surrendering…. clarify your requests and then have the faith and belief that things will unfold just exactly as they need to.

My intention is to cultivate a space of peace…

…the chaotic….is transformed….

…peace is the new normal and no matter what the outside looks like….

…it’s my inner peace that remains prominent…

…then…. my inner peace actually manifests itself to the outside world…

and subtly…. things are a little more peaceful…

peace unfolds one ย moment at a time…

…and things are calm….peaceful… and we are happy.

So what happens when your peaceful trek turns into a sh*tstorm of what feels like an ugly pie of triggers and negativity that throws us into a space of questioning what is going on with us and what does it mean? What choices am I to make now, what people am I to talk to and where am I to go?

Let’s go into the sh*t a little more

First and foremost, my intention is to cultivate my own state of peace, love and happiness…

I choose intention…

With this comes all the relationships that I have….

If you believe Relationships are assignments, which I do…. then every relationship is an opportunity to learn… to put our tools into practice…

– Negative feelings from others are a reflection of what we feel within ourselves and it’s our responsibility to take that information and ask ourselves what it means to us…. in order to release it… acknowledge the feeling and then allow it to be healed.

– When we let the light in ourselves shine bright, we see it reflected in others… we feel peace within and we see that peace in others.

– God is within everyone…this is our light…this is our love…. when we recognize and cultivate the divinity within us, we acknowledge that it’s within others…and we are all connected

We all have a choice…. we can choose to be around certain people…we can choose to be in certain situations…

At various points of our journeys, we will be presented with situations and relationships where we can choose to accept the assignment…or not accept the assignment…

Depending upon where we are in our growth, we may feel confident and can handle the chaos with peace and grace….

And there are other times…where we feel less than adequate to be in the space of peace and love…and the negativity and turmoil within ourselves boils over with a perceived chaotic external experience….

Hence….a sh*tstorm…

What being empathetic has to do with anything

Empathy…. some people are lovingly referred to as empaths….

Empaths are very empathetic of the people and energy around them…. they were probably very sensitive as children to their environment…and other people.

An empath absorbs the energy around them and can often times become anxious, irritable, excited, or sad.

I believe we all have a tendency to absorb the energies of others…

We started doing it as children as a survival mechanism… to keep love coming from the adults in our lives.

We adjust our own energy to accommodate the energy of those around us….

This is why the company you keep is so important to your health…your growth…your happiness…

And why we must become better so that our positive energy can make positive changes in the world around us.

So when it comes to a choice…. if we can choose the company we keep…. and the environments we put ourselves in…

let’s take being in public places…. where everyone else’s sh*t can be all up in your face if you aren’t in a peaceful place with yourself.

Where is the fine line between seeing relationships as an assignment…

And keeping the sanctity of our miracle-mindset…

For me, I’ve learned that it all comes down to a choice…

The choice may not feel available when you’re in the eye of the sh*tstorm….

But after the storm, allow the choices to come to the table….

I can choose to take time for myself, pray, meditate and work alone to become better with these feelings and thoughts…

Or, I can choose to jump in…. into, at face value…undesirable situations….

These are my choices…. and neither one is right…or wrong… they are simply a choice…

and I must have faith that whichever choice I make, something beautiful will occur….a miracle will prevail and the universe will continue to have my back.

We must know that it’s OK to re-evaluate situations as they occur and take the time we need to allow the feelings and thoughts to come through… these are growing pains… and a part of it all…

It’s totally OK to loose it… We have to Break the Habit of Being Ourselves…. in order to regain our desired state…

Crack ourselves open as Gabby has described….

New feelings and thoughts will come up….they may be disguised as old feelings and thoughts… we may be tempted to brush over them and go back to business as usual….

Consider receiving them and allowing them to transform into something new…something different…something better…

May we all remember the peace and love within us all….. and stay in this space for as long we can…. growing it like a muscle….it will become our normal…. our constant state…and we will be free….and happy.

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